Table of Contents

PART I – LEARNING

1. INTRODUCTION
My First-Level Healing
My Deeper Healing
Defining “Letting Go”
My Offering to You

2. EARLY EMOTIONAL CONDITIONING
The Child’s Natural Expression
Emotional Myths
Emotional Role Models
The Rule Book
Can Others Make Me Feel?
On Becoming Affectionate and Intimate

3. WHAT ARE EMOTIONS?
Emotions – Your Natural Resource!
A Definition of Emotion
Emotional Energy
Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence and Maturity

4. THE MANY LAYERS OF YOU
The Nature/Nurture Dilemma
Genetics and Physical Characteristics
Mind-Body and Psychoneuroimmunology
You’ve Got Personality!
Personal Development History
Daily Living, Emotions, Thoughts and Choices
The Presenting Me
Your Insightful Higher Self
Who Can I Be?

5. MIND, BODY, AND EMOTIONS
Stress, Emotions and Physical Health
Neuroplasticity and the Healing Brain
The Benefits of Expression
Healing through Laughter
The Healing Power of Tears
Expression and Self-Esteem

6. DEPRESSION – MANY MEANINGS, MANY CAUSES
The Nature of Depression
The Metaphors of Depression
Causes of Depression
The Secret Strength of Depression


PART II – INSIGHT

7. THE TOP WAYS OF AVOIDING EMOTIONS
The Masks You Wear
Masks – Good or Bad?
The Top Behaviors to Avoid Your Feelings

8. OUCH! THINGS THAT HURT!
Dealing with Loss and Grief
Day-to-Day Events
Holidays and Christmas
Chronic Conditions
Living, Loving and Learning
Rejection, Betrayal and Let-Downs
Jealousy
Bullying, Teasing and Humiliation
Creative Soul Wounding
Reality Can Hurt!
Shame and Guilt
Infidelity and Divorce
Betrayal and Loss
Keeping a Secret
Sexuality and Orientation
Becoming More Aware
Crimes of Personal Invasion
Long Periods of Unpredictability
Perfectionism
Other People’s Rules and Decisions
Experiencing Poverty
Ostracism, Isolation, and Humiliation
Dealing with a Sociopath
Broken Hearts and Unrequited Love
Re-victimization
Vicarious Traumatization
Creative Constipation
Classifying Human Suffering

9. ABUSE, TRAUMA AND THE WOUNDED SOUL
Defining Abuse and Trauma
Recognizing Abuse
The Impact of Trauma
Traumatic Events and Delayed Reaction

10. HOW THE PAST IMPACTS THE PRESENT
Triggers
Events and Conditions
Emotional Reaction
Self-Talk, Frozen Needs and Attitudes
Habits, Patterns and Behaviors
Relationships and Emotional Baggage

11. MEMORIES – FACT OR FICTION?
A Forgotten Past
Emotional Memory
The Recovered Memory Debate
Facilitating Memory Recall


PART III – GROWTH

12. DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Learning the Language of Feelings
Our Emotional Habit Inventory
So, What Am I Feeling?
Learning to Meditate
Developing the Inner Observer
Stop, Look, Listen
Awareness through Breath
The Yogi Breath
The Complete Breath
Body Awareness through Chakras
Developing Body Awareness

13. BIOLOGY OF BELIEFS
Cognitive Biases and Blind Spots
Are You Open-Minded?
Discovering and Unlocking Beliefs
The Stages of Challenging a Belief
Attributions and Subtext
Increasing Your Self-Knowledge
Re-evaluating Your Assumptions about Others
Discovering Your Attitudes
Invoking New Behavior!

14. GETTING UN-STUCK
Opening the Johari Window
The Self-Pity Trap
Holding On
Increasing Your Awareness
Facing the Truth
Reaching a Crisis Point
Working on the Real (and Deeper) Problem
Modifying Defeatist Behaviors
Being Wary of Opposites
Being Innovative
Creating Creativity


PART IV – HEALING

15. DEVELOPING YOUR FOUNDATION FOR HEALING
Finding Your Voice
Developing Your Healing Skills
Developing a Positive Healing Attitude
Establishing a Connection with Nature
Respecting Others
Developing a Support System
Believing in a Purpose
The Healing Hunch
Invoking the Power of Hope
Being Humble
Developing Self-Compassion over Self-Esteem

16. RELEASE AND LET GO!
The Process of Releasing
Beginning to Feel Again
The Emotional Life Cycle
Achieving a New Emotional Baseline

17. GOING DEEPER
Five Stages of Deep Release

18. RESOLVING ANGER AND RESENTMENT
The Nature of Anger
Anger Expression Styles and the Anger Trait-State
The Four Pillars of Undoing the Anger Habit
Changing Your Expectations
Anger Resolution Exercises
Healing Rage

19. REMEMBER AND FORGIVE
The Skill of Forgiveness
Blocks and Catalysts to Forgiving
Seven Steps to Forgiveness
Making Amends
Self-Forgiveness

20. FINDING YOUR COMMUNITY
The Roots of Loneliness
Social Bargaining
Healing Neediness
Replacing Unavailable Family
The Role of Grieving
Becoming Self-Reliant

21. HEALING WITH CREATIVITY
Musical Expression
Express Your Traits and Talents
Artistic Expression
Dance and Drama
Express Yourself Verbally
Keep a Diary or Journal
Write Letters of Letting Go
Write and Re-Write Your Story
Create Poetry
Read Fiction
Write the Letter You Would Like to Receive
Create a Vision Board
Create Ceremonies of Completion and Letting Go
Talk to an Empty Chair
Graveyard Visits – When Someone is No Longer with You
Massage and Healing Professions
Laughter
Make Use of Emotional Movies and Other Media
Scents and Aromatherapy
Research Your Family Tree
Visualize a Different Outcome
The Birth Order Exercise
Cultural and Religious Healing Practices

22. HEALTHY THINGS TO DO FOR YOURSELF
Self-Soothing Activities


PART V – TRANSFORMATION

23. HAPPINESS WITHOUT MONEY OR LUCK
Redefining Happiness
A Positive or a Victim Attitude
What is Your Life Sentence?
Redefining Success
Reverse the Fading Happiness Trend

24. DEVELOP HEALTHY ATTITUDES AND HABITS

25. UTILIZE THESE FREE HAPPINESS TOOLS
Learning to Forecast Your Emotions
Learning Positive Words of Praise
Building Your Social Capital
Exercising Well and Forming Pivotal Habits
Living Well and Doing Well

26. TRANSFORMATIVE LIVING
Creating Jen, Li and Wu Wei – Effortless Creation
Focus on Gratitude, Kindness and Compassion
Look Outward With Empathy!

27. UNDERSTAND THE KEYS TO BOUNCING BACK
The Value of Worthiness
Defining Resilience
Developing Self-Esteem and Worthiness
The Art of Self-Evaluation

28. CONCLUSION

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